I know that they hurt when they are said to you, but they also show the total misunderstanding of someone who has never before suffered from back pain.
The one that really does it for me, is the “Are you faking?” comment. the problem is, that apart from your cries of pain there is no real proof that you really do suffer from back pain.
I had an employer once who was out to get me because he thought that I was “affecting the whole team” by the number of sick days that I had to take.
And the ironic thing is that I WISHED that I had not had to take those sick days. At the time, I would have given almost anything in order to have had the health to be able to attend work.
But let’s step back a bit…
You may be wondering how I managed to start suffering from such a bad back. It’s a bit strange because I don’t really have a great answer. There was no dramatic accident or something extremely heavy which I did to start off the pain. In fact, it started when I was doing something ever so ordinary.
I had arrived back from the shops with my food shopping and was taking the bags out of the car into the house when suddenly I felt something ‘tug’ in my back. Suddenly I was in the most excruciating pain. Not only that, but sweat started to pour down my face and I started to feel really quite faint.
My wife came running out of the house when she heard my cries with a worried look on her face. She told me afterward that she had thought that there had been in a terrible accident and was in a lot of pain.
Well, she was wrong about the accident, but oh boy, the pain was like nothing that I have ever felt before.
And rather than subsiding and improving like pain usually does, it only became worse. I spent a few days in bed suffering before realizing that I had to go and see a doctor in case I had done some real harm that needed medical attention.
After dragging myself to see my Doctor, he said that I had BACK PAIN 🙂
Wonderful diagnosis (feel the sarcasm…).
I felt like telling him that that was the exact reason I was there and that I hadn’t needed to go through an agonizing car ride in order for him to tell me that!
What I really needed to know from him though was how to combat the paid. His answer was that I should give my back plenty of rest – like I hadn’t been doing that for the last few days!
Much more painful time passed…
Over the next year, I had a very painful year. Sometimes I was in more pain and sometimes in less, but on the whole, it was a year that makes me grimace when I think about it.
I also saw several specialists and countless thousands of dollars which didn’t seem to help me at all.
The only solutions that they had were either some very invasive operations which I was told could actually lead to paralysis or drugs that would knock me out so that I would hardly know what was going on.
I confess that during some of the excruciating pain days, I did take some of the drugs but they didn’t help me so much as to knock me out so that I couldn’t do anything else but sleep.
If you have been in a similar situation to me, then you will know that you become desperate and it almost becomes a quest to see if you can find the holy grail of pain relief. My trust in conventional medicine during that year hit an all-time low as I realized again and again that as much as they may have wanted to help me, this was not possible