Realize first to know what are the goals of their life
Dating is a serious business. We sometimes forget that dating was originally invented to help people find Mr. or Ms. Right.
We’re not just talking about someone you’re attracted to or are compatible with at the moment. This is about finding a suitable partner that can have a meaningful, long -term relationship with.
You could be needlessly creating your own unhappiness if you go around dating without having a complete sense of self or purpose. Without realizing it, you might be running after people who are downright wrong for you—and all because you don’t know who you’re meant to be, or where you’re going.
You need to date with a purpose.
“ ‘Date with a purpose’?” you might say. “I’m pretty clear on the person I want to go out with.”
Actually, what I’m referring to is the general purpose of your life. My intention for this book is to help people realize that they first need to know what their life’s goals and plans are, and then see where dating fits into those goals.
I’ve got this little theory about dating. I believe we need to be content and happy with ourselves, clear on where we’re going and how to get there before we can truly be successful at dating.
In fact, I recommend not going on dates at all if: a.) you’re in a state of indecision or personal crisis, or b.) you’re not looking for a long- term relationship.
“Aw, C’mon!” some of you say. “What’s wrong with going on dates while I’m figuring out what to do with my life? It’s just dating.” And others might say, “Look, I’m just in it for fun. I’m young/gorgeous/ free, and I just want a hot date. What’s wrong with that?”
Well, I’m betting 99.9% of you singles who are in the dating game aren’t in it just for kicks. Let’s be honest: whether you’re serious or just playing, you’re all harboring secret hopes of finding true, everlasting love.
Once you are solid with what you want in life, and what type of person would compliment you perfectly, you’ll have the wisdom to discern who would make suitable partners and who wouldn’t.
You will radiate a sense of peace and confidence. Other people will sense this immediately and will find you attractive. You can then successfully attract or pursue the people you want.
When you stop focusing too much on obtaining a sexy partner and focus instead on your life’s general purpose, paradoxically you will attract the very kind of person you want.
And that’s when dating starts becoming serious fun!
If you focus on having a positive purpose and outlook on life and seek to create a positive environment with friends and family, you naturally invite more positive people to join you.
And trust me, positive people are the sexiest people on the planet. The partner that’s just right for you will be among them, waiting for you to discover him or her.
If you’re afraid that you’re not gorgeous, smart, sexy, or ready enough for that once-in-a-lifetime partner, don’t be! True sex appeal has little to do with appearance (and I’ll prove that to you later in the book!), and everything to do with being grounded and self-confident. If you can achieve that, your partner will find you irresistible!
Are ready for some serious fun? Turn to the next chapter of your life.
- Chapter 1: Self Reflection
- Chapter 2: How to Expand Your Horizons
- Chapter 3: Your Financial Situation
- Chapter 4: How Physical Attraction Works
- Chapter 5: And Now You’re Ready to Date
- Chapter 6: When and How to Date for Keeps
Be prepared before you commit 🙂